dear me…

The latest thing to be going around the web…do people even still call it the web? am I that old?…is #dearme. What would you tell your younger self? Younger me was a shy, strange girl who took some time to come out of her shell. And was a total weirdo. Seriously, weird, but I kept it on the down low because I was too worried about what others thought.

I would have told smaller me that it’s totally ok to be uber strange and eccentric. Having a different personality is much better than trying to fit the mold of everyone else. Also, don’t worry so much about what other people think. I know that one seems to come up for just about everybody, and it’s completely true. It’s much more ‘acceptable’ to try and fit in than stand out on your own. And most of the people who may give you crap for it, will become meaningless to you once you move on from middle school and high school. Surround yourself with amazing people, leave the rest behind because ya don’t need em.

I’d also tell myself to use more sunscreen, try to create a stupid game that could make you millions as an app one day, and attempt new things in college. College me definitely would have benefited from the knowledge I have now. Your friendships will become lifelong, and you’ll look forward to meeting up again and reminiscing about the good ole days. That dude that you were ‘in love’ with for years will turn out to be a bum that you never really liked anyway. Don’t waste time on stupid things, like said dude, or petty things, college is the best time to find yourself, who you truly are, and who you want to become. Hallmark card aside, everything you went through has made you into the person you are now.

Dear me, it’s been a good ride so far. Got a lifetime of knowledge.

What would you tell your younger self?




the past you.

While sometimes it may not seem like it, we really have grown since our exit out of our teens. The amount of self-discovery over the years is quite evident. You know a hell of a lot more now than the past you.

For example; you now know that spending all of that money from your refund check back in college meant that you eventually had to pay it back with your own hard earned money, it wasn’t free like you thought. Or those incriminating, yet hilarious, photos that you loved to post online meant implications for future, professional, you. 10 year facebook movie, anyone?

You also now know that the people you put up with simply because they were your ‘friends’, are no longer in your life for good reasons. And that the ending to Lost still doesn’t make any sense. It would have been a lot easier knowing these things way back then, but that’s not really how life works is it?

Knowledge. See, I did learn something with six years of college and two degrees.

the new gossip.

We’ve entered a time period where news travels faster thanks to the unfortunate thing that is facebook. We’re no longer passing notes, making phone calls, or riding our bikes to spread news. No, now it’s a keyboard stroke away, actually no, that’s also dated…more like a finger swipe away.

But, the type of news has changed. The shock value of old headlines like ‘___ has a crush on you’, ‘__ hooked up with ___’, or ‘___ got kicked out of school‘ are long gone. The new gossip now consists of important facts like who is pregnant, who has died, or who is already getting divorced. Yes, we’re that old, and that far removed from adolescent youth, that we actually morbidly discuss who we know has died. And here I mock my parents for scanning the obituaries on a daily basis. There is also some happiness for someone having a baby, which has come a long away from hearing the joyous cries in the bathroom stall of the girls dorm. Indeed, that would really happen.

We are older. For most of us, priorities have changed. I’m less concerned with what others are doing, and more concerned about what I’ve got lined up on netflix. Like the saying goes ‘imma do me‘. See, I can still hang.

the sense of self.


Somewhere around the time you leave college, and find yourself thrown into the black hole of real life, you’ve managed to find a good sense of self. Or, rather, you’ve created an experienced version of yourself. With that, you have a new set of attitudes and beliefs simply because you’re older and therefore know way more things.

Yes, you’ve reached that point in your life where you feel confident and comfortable enough to say what you really feel. It’s similar to that feeling of being a senior which, simply by that title, makes you far superior to the underclassmen. You also may discover that you care less about what people think, and more about things that make you feel happy. For me, the point after grad school graduation was the first time in my life that I started doing the things that I wanted to do, whenever I wanted to do them.

A glorified sense of freedom. But, then I had to get a big girl job, and that freedom now half hangs out the window.

Such is life.